It’s Seriously Time To Stop Criticizing Mila Kunis’ (And All Celebs’) Parenting Choices

Who ever said it was OK to shame people for making completely rational decisions? Assholes on the internet, that’s who. Mila Kunis was recently shamed for breastfeeding her newborn in public, because people will always find a reason to get mad, and that’s not the slightest bit OK. It’s really time for society to stop criticizing Kunis and all celebs for their parenting choices.

Kunis told Vanity Fair at her movie premiere for (ironically) Bad Moms, “I support every woman’s choice in what she wants to do and whatever makes them happy, but for me, I did nurse my child and I literally breastfed everywhere. Why did I do it in public? Because I had to feed my child. She’s hungry. I need to feed her whether it’s out of a bottle or out of my boob no matter where I was.”

Despite glaring eyes from passersby and other moms, she soldiered on. Her and husband, Ashton Kutcher, both agree it’s not a sexual act, and like, yeah, they have a point. Here’s why: according to the World Health Organization it’s “the normal way of providing young infants with the nutrients they need for healthy growth and development. Virtually all mothers can breastfeed, provided they have accurate information, and the support of their family, the health care system and society at large.”

I get that you might be so overwhelmed by how beautiful that sounds, so let’s channel that energy by celebrating the female body instead of denigrating it. Cut the grade four crap of covering your mouth, pointing, and yelling “EWW BOOBIES!!” only to probably raid your older brother’s porn stash and study them with a magnifying glass. We need to collectively draw the line about what warrants sexualization and what doesn’t: a woman feeding her child is nothing more than a way of using her own body to serve a newborn an easily digestible meal. This is not up for interpretation. It’s healthy to do a little introspection and to set your own boundaries, but never at the expense of someone else.

It seems though, that moms can’t win, so it’s important to just do you. Model Coco Rocha was even criticized for not breastfeeding her baby when she posted an Instagram photo of delivery breastmilk. You never know the full story, so until you do, keep it zipped (in truth, she breastfed for five months up until she wasn’t physically capable, not that it’s anyone’s business or concern).

Last week, Victoria Beckham posted a photo of herself to Instagram kissing her child on the lips, and of course this garnered over 11,000 comments, many of them completely batshit and misguided like, “You might have herpes on your lips and give it to the” and, “you are literally fucken retarded… I AM NOT SICK, YOU ARE SICK! You kiss your fucking baby or kid on the lips even though you do oral things with them and do sensual and intimate things with them, what the fuck is wrong with you?” Oh, internet. Never change. Actually, change. Please. Now.

This little peck is not quite the same as taking out a boob for feeding purposes, but the intention is the same: to care for and protect a child. You probably kissed your mom and dad when you were a toddler, and to call it weird at that age is kind of weird! Sure, if you’re doing it at age 14, social services might be knocking on your door any minute, but raising a child in a loving environment is something that seems to be increasingly more difficult for the childless to understand.

Here’s how to be an ally to moms whose lifestyles are different from yours: look away, unfollow if you want, praise them in a way that feels right to you, or call attention instead to a place where you share common ground, but certainly keep the tit-talking to yourself.