Why Kim Kardashian Publicly Focusing On Her Weight Loss After Giving Birth Really Sucks A Lot

This week, we are expected to give a shit about Kim Kardashian’s journey through post-pregnancy weight loss, but I want to help you not give a shit. Because I care about you and don’t want to see your priorities all tangled up like an umbilical cord.

We, The Universe, write about Kardashian so often that she completely lost her sense of humanhood — if she even had one to begin with — and became this mythical unicorn-like figure in a bandage dress. If everything she does, says, wears, and eats is headline-worthy, nothing she does, says, wears, or eats is headline-worthy. Math, y’all. I paid attention literally once.

From her Snapchat, we learn that 132-pound Kardashian is trying to drop 12 pounds so as to mirror her 2010 weight of 120. I’m only telling you this because I like the idea of women being more vocal about how much they weigh. That’s cool. Let’s all sit in a confession circle announcing our weight only to realize we are fine and we can move on. But KK gets a big ol’ NOPE for promoting the idea that her already-healthy weight isn’t good enough and that the number on the scale dictates how you should feel about yourself.

Weight is an arbitrary number we assign to our self-worth. Meaningless. Did you know that? Well I’m telling you that calculating your BMI, which doesn’t differentiate fat from muscle weight, or panicking that you weigh more at night than in the morning, or put on a few pounds after the holidays, has no bearing on who you are. Setting goal weights is just another way to train yourself, quite literally, into a pit of disappointment. Unless a doctor has given you tangible steps to help you lose weight, or has labeled your weight a threat to your health, the number doesn’t matter any more than wearing white after Labor Day. Or before Labor Day. See? That’s how much it matters — I don’t have a fucking clue what the rules are, and life is simpler that way.

I used to weigh myself a lot, probably because I was a bored teenager and didn’t know there were other benchmarks to define your success, some of which include but are not limited to: fostering a great group of friends, discovering you don’t hate school, and being able to go on a date and order real food that requires chewing. Food is awesome.

Kardashian’s weight posts reinforce that being as thin as possible is more important than the very thing that expanded your body in the first place. Not only is it not realistic for all new mothers to run to the gym the second their kids pop out, but it’s not even what all new moms want, despite being told that they should want to lose weight immediately and that their value will be determined by their ability or inability to do so. Some moms just want to be strong and healthy after giving birth (and maybe more would if we told them that was the thing to aim for instead of weight loss). Being a mother requires sturdiness, both physically and emotionally. Embrace it. Aspire to it.

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With 72.2 million Instagram followers, and an empire of a family, her reach is far and wide. While I endorse the notion of trying to feel healthy and strong again, punishing yourself after nine months (and labor!) of what many women describe as emotional and torturous seems slightly masochistic and highly problematic. Not to mention, broadcasting it to her fans encourages them to do the same.

There’s such a bizarre disconnect between the way Kardashian presents herself and how she talks about herself: On the one hand, she constantly wears form-fitting dresses that show off a booty for days, which I’m sure requires a lot of Shake Shack to maintain (and that, my friends, is how to live your best life), but on the other hand, she posts photos that hint at a not-so-deep-seated self-deprecation. I would love for someone with so much influence to embrace their post-pregnancy weight and accompanying battle scars like the badge of honor they are.