The Bachelor’s Jade Roper Speaks Out About Her Sexual Assault
Although there were a whole lotta fails at the Oscars Sunday night, one highlight was Lady Gaga’s performance of “Til It Happens to You,” her Oscar-nominated song for the devastating doc about sexual assault on college campuses, The Hunting Ground.
The Bachelor alum Jade Roper was moved to write about her own sexual assault after seeing the performance, which featured an inspiring introduction by Joe Biden and a host of survivors from the doc onstage. (Best Actress winner Brie Larson was so moved that she got out of her seat and hugged everyone who left the stage after the performance.)
As I am writing this, my heart is beating fast, hard against my chest, almost irregularly. I’ve only shared my story with but a few, not even my family knows. But when I saw Gaga fill the whole room with emotion as she sang with conviction and urgency, as I saw survivors of sexual assault bravely stand up there showing the world that what happened to them does matter, tears streamed down my face. Finally the message of “Do not tell me to act strong, do not tell me it will get better, do not pacify me. Until it happens to you, do not tell me how to feel or how to cope. And most importantly, do not try to make me feel insignificant. I am not invisible.” All things I thought I had to do. I have always had a fear of being a burden to people, of being too much.
She went on to detail her experience as a teen, adding, “Sharing my story sheds a little more light in a very dark part inside of me. I am not chained to this experience, it doesn’t have to control my life. I am unafraid of the feedback anymore. This happened to me and it matters. I matter. And I am worthy of love.”
Learn more about The Hunting Ground and where to watch it here. Writer/director Kirby Dick and producer Amy Ziering addressed sexual assault in the military in their equally wrenching and infuriating doc The Invisible War.