Babysitter Who Raped An 11-Year-Old Boy Escapes Jail Time Because His Dad Was Cool With It
We’ve all heard that same joke about a young boy who gets “taken advantage of” by a grown woman, and then the police come to give him a high five. I’m not laughing at this logic, but I am familiar with it from the many times the media and society at large has downplayed the severity of female teachers who have “had sex with,” aka raped, their male students.. Too often when this happens, someone makes the mistake of basically congratulating the kid or making a joke about the appeal of what is without question sexual abuse. This is the last thing male victims or victims of any gender should be hearing — they’re children who have experienced trauma and they deserve help and support from adults who understand the gravity of that.
The latest example of this occurred not between a teacher and a student, but a 21-year-old babysitter and the 11-year-old boy in her care — and the person down playing the incident was the victim’s father. In an official statement, the man said his 11-year old son “would have been fully up for this experience and in many ways sees it as a notch on his belt and is totally unaffected by it.” It’s worth noting that the father also had a sexual relationship with the babysitter prior to the rape, which perhaps partially explains why he’s talking more like a friend than a parent.
“She told him she enjoyed it, he said he had not as it was wrong,” prosecuting attorney Hannah Squire told the Swindon Crown Court, disputing the father’s claims. In the end, the court found that the babysitter’s immaturity was a contributing factor – after spending two years in the hospital as a child, she seemed younger than 20 years old, while the victim had allegedly led her to believe that he was 15, making the gap a little less severe in the eyes of the judge. (Nevermind the fact that it’s hard to believe a 15-year-old would need a babysitter, and it doesn’t make sense that the babysitter would believe the son of the man she was sleeping with was 15 unless he lied to her as well.)
The babysitter may have skirted jail time for now, but she was given a six-month suspended prison sentence and ordered to register as a sex offender for seven years, while her name and picture have been released for the whole world to see. Her actions were clearly wrong, but so were the father’s. The judge, in his decision, compared her mental age to that of a minor’s, so by that standard, the only adult involved in this situation is the dad. But because his actions weren’t technically illegal, this awful father’s name and picture have not been released. He can walk around without the public shame of playing a part in any of this.
Noting this double standard does not discount the crime this babysitter committed, but it is an important detail that makes this cesspool of a story even more retched. There’s no law against being gross, but when an 11-year-old boy is involved, it sure feels like there should be.