Frisky Rant: Male Reactions To Amber Rose’s Support Of Slut Walk Prove Why The Movement Is So Necessary

This week, Amber Rose released a Funny Or Die video in which the ex of Kanye West and Wiz Khalifa is shown on an early morning “walk of shame.” Meant to elicit some chuckles and draw attention to the “Slut Walk” that the ex-stripper/model will be hosting in LA on October 13, the video has also received an array of criticisms. On New York’s Power 105.1FM morning show, “The Breakfast Club,” the hosts discussed the video and upcoming event exposing the widespread ignorance of the general American public towards female sexuality and rape.

Angela Yee, the shows only female participant, attempted to highlight the purpose of Rose’s efforts saying, “Amber Rose is doing this Slut Walk and the whole point of it is against slut shaming.” Within moments, her two male co-hosts piped up with these responses: “So basically they want to be able to be sluts and hoes but they don’t want anybody to call them that” and “Sounds like they want to promote being sluts and hoes.”

The exasperation in Angela’s voice was impossible to miss as she continued to try to educate the pair about importance of the event, which mobilizes supporters against rape, sexual injustice, victim-blaming and gender inequality. Most of her very valid insights were met with ignorance by her male cohorts, Charlamagne The God and DJ Envy, who managed to overpower the message of female empowerment by reinforcing the same old stereotypical tropes which Slut Walk attempts to dispel.

The entire interaction provides a glimpse into the world of gender politics, revealing the tactics/arguments often employed by men to derail conversations about female empowerment and sexual equality. So, I’ve taken the time to respond to the most ignorant (and common) arguments put forth by both the show’s male hosts, its callers and some of the commenters who left opinions on Amber Rose’s Funny or Die PSA, in an attempt to get this conversation back on track.

1. “You can’t empower certain things like slut and hoe behavior.”

DJ Envy. Like, serious? What, precisely, is this then?

In any case, to further my point, let’s remove the derogatory labels from this sentence and restate it to demonstrate the problem with the logic: “You can’t empower certain things like sexual autonomy or sexual freedom.” So we shouldn’t empower a woman’s freedom to express her sexuality? I beg to differ. It seems that DJ Envy does also, considering the fact that he has empowered many strippers who freely parade their sexuality by making it rain his hard-earned cash — $20,000 of it allegedly? — on the stage where they perform.

2. “So basically they want to be able to be sluts and hoes but they don’t want anybody to call them that.”

The definition of the word slut reads: “a woman who has many casual sexual partners” or “a sexually promiscuous woman.” Though there is nothing inherently wrong with having many casual sex partners — hence the reason why we applaud men for participating in such behavior — there is no equivalent slur hurled at men who are promiscuous, revealing the underlying problem with the term: the word “slut” is sexist. It degrades a woman simply because she chooses to freely express her sexuality. Thus a woman does not want to be called a “slut” in the degrading, derogatory manner in which it’s typically used to diminish her value based on her right to sexual autonomy and freedom. That same woman , however, still may feel that she has the right to freely engage in any sexual acts she chooses, because she is an adult and what she decides to do with her pussy is her problem.

3.  “You can’t have an actual slut [Amber Rose] hold a Slut Walk.”

A woman who has been branded and labeled because of her style of dress or participation in the sex industry and who has somehow managed to find success, is actually the perfect person to host a Slut Walk, because said branding represents the inequality which Slut Walks protest against.

This is not at all the first time that Charlamagne The God has shown such disrespect to women.

Here’s a recap of a recent conversation Charlamagne The God had with rapper Master P about respecting women:

Charlemagne: I always wondered, how did you set up promotion for your projects? Because it was a time that No Limit was dropping project every week. It was a No Limit product in stores every week. Except for Mercedes, we never saw that. And I always wanted to see that because she had a fat ass pussy.

Master P: See there bruh, hold up… Don’t talk about Mercedes like that.

Charlemagne: Oh, my bad. I didn’t know. Is she family or something?

Master P: She ain’t family; but still though, with all my people man, you know how I am. But we good, man. You know what I’m saying…you know how we get down.

Charlemagne: But how were you setting it up, promotion wise?

Master P: Naw, let’s go back to this dog. Let’s respect. Because I’m not going to talk about your sister, your mom or nothing. That’s the first thing. I know you do your radio thing and I respect that; but at the same time, Mercedes is a…she a female.

Charlemagne: You right. My bad. But she did look good on that cover though.

Master P: She did look good. That’s your opinion…

Master P: But like I said man, it’s about respect, Charlemagne. You know me and you go back.

Charlemagne: Absolutely.

Master P: When we talk about women– I don’t care I ain’t gon’ disrespect no hookers or nothing. Cuz I don’t do that, I’m a man. And I don’t want nobody to disrespect no people that I know. You know what I’m saying.

Charlemagne: Absolutely.

When Master P has more respect for women than most men in society do, you know there’s a problem. And even after being schooled by Master P on not disrespecting or mislabeling women or referring to them in a derogatory manner, Charlamagne The God — like many men — still continues to do so, further proving the need for the movement in the first place.

4. “Sounds like they want to promote being sluts and hoes.”

A simple Google search of the term “Slut Walk” can enlighten any individual to the goals of the nationwide events and its participants. Chief among them: protest against victim-blaming in rape and sexual assault cases; call for an end to rape culture and sexual injustice; and end derogatory labeling. The words “sluts” and “hoes” falls right into the latter category.

5. “I wouldn’t want my daughter to go to one of these things.”

You would not want you daughter to be surrounded by strong women who are rallying to reclaim their autonomy, freedom and sexuality while calling for an end to rape and sexual inequality? I can think of many more dangerous places for daughters — like college campuses where one in four college women report surviving rape or attempted rape, at home with a partner, where one in four women experience domestic violence in her life time, or in the military where 25 percent of women have been sexually assaulted and up to 80 percent have been sexually harassed. But it’s cool if you think a bunch of women coming together for the sake of their own rights is your daughter’s number one threat.

6. “Amber Rose is the face of Slut Walk, which is wrong because she’s a slut.”

Now, I done already explained that calling a woman a slut, while diminishing a movement against calling women derogatory names makes no damn sense, so I won’t reiterate that point. Instead, here’s a brief history lesson about Slut Walk: The movement launched in Toronto, Canada, in 2011 after a police constable said, “I’ve been told I’m not supposed to say this – however, women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized.” The Slut Walk movement is a rallying cry for women that has gained steam all around the world. Rallies have been seen all over Europe, Asia, Latin America and of course the United States.

So, no, Amber Rose is not the “face of” Slut Walk. She is merely an advocate who is participating in a movement that has existed for a few years now.

8. “I think [Slut Walk] is a bunch of bull crap. It’s a terrible example for kids.” A terrible reality for children is one where women and girls are sexualized, objectified, labeled derogatory terms, victim-blamed and face constant inequality and violence. That reality is perpetuated by men who face no consequences for their “loose” sexual morals or behavior but continuously attempt to chastise or degrade women for participating in the same exact thing.

This MTV2 video featuring Charlamagne and a friend at a strip club provides a keen example:

The video perfectly demonstrates society’s male/female double standard. Man goes to strip club and pays for “adult entertainment” and he is a positive role model. The women providing the entertainment are “sluts” and “hoes.” If this is not inequality, then what is?