Vogue Profile Suggests Cara Delevingne’s Bisexuality Is Just Temporary, No Worries
A Vogue profile on Cara Delevingne is making the queers upset (I can say that because I am one), and with good reason. Here’s the snippet in question, in which writer Rob Haskell implies that Delevingne’s attraction to women is only temporary and probably caused by latent childhood trauma:
“Cara says she felt confused by her sexuality as a child, and the possibility of being gay frightened her… Her parents seem to think girls are just a phase for Cara, and they may be correct. ‘Women are what completely inspire me, and they have also been my downfall. I have only been hurt by women, my mother first of all…’
When I suggest to Cara that to trust a man, she might have to revise an old and stubborn idea of hers — that women are perennially troubled and therefore only women will accept her — her smile says she concedes the point.”
Oh her smile says it, huh? Not Delevingne herself? Well then, I’m going to assume that Haskell’s smug interview dialogue says “I’m a sexist homophobe.” Fair’s fair, right? Maybe Haskell or Vogue could clear that up for me.
It’s particularly gross because Delevingne is in a relationship with Annie Clark, the powerhouse musician also known as St. Vincent. Like, how is this an appropriate thing to say to a woman who’s presumably content in her relationship with another woman? “I know you’re in love with her now, but trust me, Cara, that’ll change. You just need to learn how to trust men.” As if the fact that she’s attracted to women stems from her not trusting men rather than just happening to be attracted to more than one category of humans.
I swear to god, if I had to list every bisexual- or queer-identifying person who was ever told, “Oh, you’ll get over it, it’s just a phase,” I’d have to list literally every bisexual- and queer-identifying person who ever existed. We get it from both sides (so to speak) – straight people tell us we’ll end up being straight, and historically (although not as much in my recent experience as when I first came out), gay people tell us we’ll end up being gay. Stop trying to make this a THING, guys. Some people just find all consenting human adults personally and physically attractive. It’s not that difficult to understand.
UGH VOGUE UGH UGH UGH. I want to like you. I want to take joy in how tacky and oblivious you are, and lose myself in the consumerism and obsession with celebrity and aesthetics. But it’s things like this.