Dr. Ruth Says Women Can’t Refuse Sex If The Man Has A “Very Aroused, Strong Erection”
Ohhhhh, Dr. Ruth. I know Dr. Ruth Westheimer, at nearly 87, is what we can safely consider a senior citizen and should thus, maybe, be given a pass for having antiquated opinions about sex, gender and consent. But, again, she is Dr. Ruth, sex therapist and author of the forthcoming book, The Doctor Is In: Dr. Ruth on Love, Life, and Joie de Vivre, and as long as she’s promoting herself as an expert on issues related to sexuality, she should called out when her expertise reveals itself to be, well, shitty. For example, while Dr. Ruth was on “The Diane Rehm Show” earlier this week, she had this to say on the subject of consent:
I am very worried about college campuses saying that a woman and a man—or two men or two women, but I talk right now about women and men—can be in bed together, Diane, and at one time, naked, and at one time he or she, most of the time they think she, can say “I changed my mind.” No such thing is possible. In the Talmud, in the Jewish tradition, it says when that part of the male anatomy is aroused and there’s an erection, the brain flies out of that and we have to take that very seriously, so I don’t agree with that.
In other words, Dr. Ruth says that women cannot take back consent once a man has a big ol’ hard on. His hard on must be attended to and it is simply not possible for women to refuse because her religion says so. Lest you think I am misunderstanding the old bat’s words, Rehm needed clarification as well, saying to Ruth, “[so] the concern about at one moment being in an aroused situation and then hearing the young woman say ‘No.’ What you’re saying is it’s already gone too far,” to which Dr. Ruth replied, “You’re putting it very well.”
Hear that, ladies? Dr. Ruth says that if you’re getting it on with a dude and you’re initially down to have sex, but then you change your mind — maybe because his breath is rank, or you noticed the String Cheese Incident poster on his wall, or YOU JUST CHANGED YOUR MIND BECAUSE IT’S YOUR BODY AND THAT IS YOUR RIGHT — you are shit outta luck. His dick is hard and there’s no turning back.
That said, it seems that it’s not just women who can’t change their minds about having sex, according to Dr. Ruth. She appears to say that men can’t take back consent once women are very aroused either, though she doesn’t give specifics on what level of, say, wetness a woman must produce before she cannot be refused sex:
…they cannot say at one time at the height of arousal just when he is very aroused, strong erection, when she’s very aroused, either he or she cannot change their mind. I know it’s controversial. But I have to stand up and believe for what I believe in.
Okay, girl. Just to be very clear, what Dr. Ruth is condoning — men/women refusing to honor their partner when they take back consent — is RAPE. Dr. Ruth has been beating the anti-consent drum for awhile now, telling a magazine in March, “The idea of consent is nonsense. Except consent before they are naked in bed.” Ugh. Can she be forced to retire or something?