21 Love & Life Lessons From Mariah Carey In Honor Of Her 45th Birthday

Today is Mariah Carey’s 45th birthday and it’s got me feeling emotions, specifically gratitude for all the wisdom about life and love that she has imparted through her music over the course of her career. So in honor of Mimi’s big day, I present to you 21 of those bits of wisdom, accompanied by GIFs of Mariah at her most divalicious.

1. When you’re having a disagreement with your boo, all you gotta do to reach an understanding is look in each other’s eyes and see the love that’s there. [“All In Your Mind”]

2. It may be hard to imagine, but someday you’ll see the person you used to love and feel nothing. [“You Had Your Chance”]

3. Even glamorous and famous pop stars have to deal with douchey guys. They are inescapable. [“Clown”]

4. Hard work, self-confidence and determination pays off. [“Make It Happen”]

5. If you truly love someone, you set them free, and if they return to you, then it’s meant to be. [“Butterfly”]

6. Have a vision of what you want your love life to be like and how you want to be treated, and don’t settle for less. [“Vision Of Love”]

7. If you’re looking for a hero, don’t forget to look inside yourself. That’s probably where the hero has been hiding all along. [“Hero”]

8. If it’s over, you have an obligation to be honest and let the other person know. [“If It’s Over”]

9. A broken heart can only break you down if you let it. [“Breakdown”]

10. Sometimes it takes a minute to figure out what you really want, so patience is key. [“Love Takes Time”]

11. Videotaping someone without their consent and putting the video up on YouTube is an ass-whoopable offense. [“Touch My Body”]

12. Beware of dating a much older man. [“Side Effects”]

13. Divorce is cause for celebration! [“It’s Like That”]

14. Christmas is not about material things — it’s about spending time with the one you love. [“All I Want For Christmas”]

15. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, so when times are tough, remember that you too will make it through the rain and there’ll be nothing you can’t face. [“Through The Rain”]

16. There comes a time when you’ve got to move on already. [“Shake It Off”]

17. Oh, he’ll come crawling back, trust[“Someday”]

18. All things are possible if you believe you’re the greatest, reach for the stars and don’t let the competition ever count you out. [“Triumphant”]

19. Friends can end up being the best lovers, if you give them a chance. [“More Than Just Friends”]

20. But when one friend has a crush on the other, and the feelings aren’t mutual, the friendship is probably over. [“I Didn’t Mean To Turn You On”]

21. Tell your loved ones how you feel, because you never know when they might die. [“One Sweet Day”]