Princeton Mom Thinks Child Molestation Is Just Bad Manners

Susan Patton, AKA “Princeton Mom” has a pretty sweet gig. She flits around TV saying incredibly horrible things for a living. Today, the horrible thing she said had to do with rape and child molestation, as for some reason Fox News has been really into soliciting her opinions on these matters. I guess because she wrote a thing about how ladies should snag a husband before they leave college lest they end up all old and alone and turning into Olive Chancellor or something.

Anyway, Patton popped by “Fox and Friends” Tuesday morning to chitchat with Elisabeth Hasselbeck about rape and child molestation over some tea and crumpets. The question of the day was whether or not we should be teaching kindergartners and other young students about concepts like rape prevention and child molestation — given that, according to the Centers for Disease Control, 42 PERCENT of rape victims are under the age of 18.

Naturally, Patton bristled at the statistic, as she is totally sure that rape doesn’t happen nearly as often as people say it does, and quickly interjected “I think the numbers that have been thrown around as to the frequency with which rape and sexual assault occurs have come into question, and have been debunked in a of number platforms. I think it’s a huge exaggeration, a reckless exaggeration of what actual rape statistics are or what actual sexual assault statistics are.”

Obviously, the CDC is part of an insidious campaign to convince an innocent populace that rape and child molestation. Probably for nefarious reasons like wanting to destroy all the men and establish an Amazonian society where we keep all of them in cages and let them out for breeding purposes only.

In regards to the prospect of teaching children about bodily autonomy, rape and child molestation, Patton stated that it was absurd to even suggest it! That the things we consider child molestation are just people having bad manners and not knowing how to keep their hands to themselves.

Transcript via RawStory:

“I think what we’re talking about here is body awareness or bullying or verbal harassment or recognize what somebody else’s space is and don’t violate it and don’t touch it, and keep your hands to yourself,” she continued. “This isn’t sex ed, these are manners.”

“And just like I don’t think sex ed belongs in school — we shouldn’t be teaching sex ed in school, that’s something parents should be teaching their children — manners, which is really what we’re talking about here. Keep your hands to yourself, don’t be bullying anybody, you don’t touch somebody, you don’t want them to touch you, you tell them not to. Again, this is manners, this isn’t sex ed… And even that should be taught at home.”

Oh yeah. It’s all basically manners. “Don’t put your elbows on the table,” “Forks go on the left,” “Don’t put your penis in someone unless they’ve consented to it.” Manners! Child molesters and rapists are basically just people who never learned proper etiquette. Perhaps instead of teaching children about why it’s not OK for someone to molest them, we could just send them to charm school.

All kidding aside — what if it’s happening at home? What if that kid is being molested or abused by his or her parents. Or what if the parents aren’t people that kid feels OK talking to? What if the parents aren’t broaching this subject with their children out of a misplaced desire to keep their minds pure?

As sad as it is, the fact that children can be and are victims of sexual assault is the very reason we need to teach them about sexual assault. No one is suggesting that this sort of education be explicit or pornographic. What we need is for children who are victims to understand that what’s happening to them is not OK, and for their teachers to be people they feel comfortable coming to about something like that.

This isn’t about sex, this is about safety. You’re not turning them into Lolita by telling them to simply watch out for Humbert Humbert. We need to teach children about these things for the same reason we teach them not to get into a car with a stranger. Yes, it would be lovely if children didn’t have to know that things like rape and child molestation exist, just as it would be lovely if they could assume that every stranger they meet is a wonderful, trustworthy human who definitely would never abduct or murder them.

The reason the “stranger danger” campaigns in the 1980s failed was because the vast majority of people who commit sexual crimes against children are people that child knows and is supposed to trust. Not random trenchcoat-wearing strangers on the street offering them candy. We need to teach children how to deal with both of these situations, or else this type of education is entirely ineffective. [RawStory]