Leelah Alcorn’s Mother Continues To Misgender Her: “We Don’t Support That, Religiously”
This past Sunday, 17-year-old transgender woman Leelah Alcorn committed suicide by throwing herself in front of a semi-truck because she couldn’t take being bullied and isolated by her religious parents any longer. On Thursday, Carla Alcorn — Leelah’s mother — spoke to CNN. Shockingly — or I guess not — even after her child threw herself in front of a fucking semi-truck because she was so destroyed over her parents refusal to accept her identity, Carla continued to misgender her:
“We don’t support that, religiously,” Alcorn’s mother told CNN on Wednesday, her voice breaking. “But we told him that we loved him unconditionally. We loved him no matter what. I loved my son. People need to know that I loved him. He was a good kid, a good boy.”
We told him. We loved him. We loved him. I loved my son. I loved him. He was a good kid. A good boy.
Lady. Your kid is dead because you refused to accept her gender identity. Could you at least drum up enough respect for your dead child to not disrespect her by continuing to misgender her? Sheesh.
Carla Alcorn also told CNN that she was “worried” that people were making her and her husband out to be “horrible people.” She said in one instance that Leelah only told her she was trans on one occasion, but then also says that after she and her husband sent Leelah to a psychiatrist and put her on medication, that “he” just “quit talking” about being transgender. Huh.
I don’t believe in telling other people what to believe when it comes to religious matters. Mostly because it’s just none of my damn business. I like the Roger Williams philosophy where everyone believes what they want without getting in anyone else’s face.
However, if your religious beliefs result in the death of your own child, then maybe it’s time to rethink those beliefs. This is true both when it comes to faith-healing crap, and when it comes to rejecting your child’s identity and bullying them to the point where they think suicide is their only option.
I just really don’t understand why anyone would even want to believe in a god that would be OK with the way Leelah Alcorn’s parents treated her. I don’t know how Carla Alcorn could see that her religious beliefs led to her child being so miserable that she committed suicide, and still think those beliefs were worth holding onto. I don’t know how anyone could rationalize “worshiping” a god that was that much of an asshole. From what I can tell, people sort of make up what kind of “god” they want to believe in anyway, so I think the fact that the Alcorns chose to worship Asshole-School-Bully-God rather than I-Love-Everyone-Equally God says more about who they are than anything else.
In Leelah’s suicide letter, she said that her mother told her “God doesn’t make mistakes.” Which is some seriously sadistic shit if you think about it in terms of things like horrible birth defects. Most people, if their kid was born with a serious birth defect that could be cured with medical treatment would do all they could for their child. Most people would not throw their hands up and say “Welp! God doesn’t make mistakes, so I’m cool with watching my child suffer miserably!” The case with transgender people is simply that they were born into a body of the wrong sex. That’s it. Why you would make your child suffer miserably because of the way they were born is utterly incomprehensible to me.
I’d like to give Carla Alcorn the benefit of the doubt, and allow her to grieve in her own way with the hope that she will someday accept who her child was. But it’s awfully hard. I don’t know. I guess I just hope that other parents of transgender children will look at her, realize they don’t want to be in her position and choose their children over their “beliefs.” [CNN]