Asshole Sets Woman’s House On Fire For Rejecting His Advances On Facebook

James Graham, a 37-year-old man from Kentucky, has been indicted on several charges after, police say, he set fire to a woman’s house because she rejected his advances on Facebook.

Apparently, Graham had been leaving comments on 23-year-old Joanie Yount’s Facebook photos, and when she told him she was not interested in him and asked him to please stop, he was so enraged that he went and set her house on fire. I repeat, he set her house on fire. Because she rejected him on Facebook. Luckily, she wasn’t home at the time and is unharmed, but still, he set her house on fire. Because she rejected him on Facebook. What the actual hell?


This is one of those tragic situations where somebody is now without a home and for such a minor reason,” said Frankfort Police Major Robert Warfel. “It’s disturbing.”

Warfel said Graham made comments on Facebook about some of Yount’s photos.

“She rebuffed those and it’s kind of what set this all in motion,” he said.

Yount’s sister, Samantha Beagle, said there was no relationship between the two. Graham was a friend of a friend. Beagle said her sister is a busy single mother who was not interested in Graham’s overtures.

“She doesn’t want a relationship. She just wants people to leave her alone. When it comes to stuff like that, either be decent or don’t bother her at all,” Beagle said.

Police said Graham broke into Yount’s home days later. They said he set a box on fire near her bed and then fled. Much of the home was damaged.

I feel like it’s sad that her sister feels like she has to qualify that Yount wasn’t interested in a relationship with anyone. It speaks to the way women learn to couch rejection. We don’t say “I’m not interested in you, in particular,” we say “I’m not interested in a relationship right now, with anyone.”  It’s not just to avoid hurting someone’s feelings, it’s a measure of self-protection.

Unfortunately, this is hardly the first time a woman has been the victim of a crime because she had the gall to reject a man’s advances. This past April, a high school girl was killed for rejecting an invitation to the prom. Elliot Rodger went and killed a bunch of people because he was sad that no one wanted to be his girlfriend. A woman in New York had her throat slashed after some stranger on the street asked her on a date and she said no. Earlier this month, a Chicago woman was punched in the face on the train for refusing to give her phone number to a man. Another woman in Detroit was shot dead for rejecting a man who was hitting on her in a bar. I know several women — myself included — who have been physically assaulted for rejecting a man’s advances.

This is an actual problem. 

Last year, Italy started requiring young men to take “How Not To Murder Your Girlfriend” anger-management classes due to the overwhelming amount of women murdered by their significant others. Perhaps we in the United States need to start requiring classes in “The World Doesn’t Owe You a Girlfriend” and “Women Are Allowed to Not Be Interested In You, Even if You Think You Are A Really Nice Guy.” [Jezebel]