The Lulu App Now Lets Men Ask Women For Anonymous Dating Advice, Thoughts?
Lulu, the app created last year to form an all-lady network and enable the power of girl talk, has launched a new feature that allows dudes to ask Lulu users dating questions. Lulu is most famous for its feature that enables women to rate men they’ve dated and leave comments about their character, but this new Q&A feature, called Truth Bombs, is a whole different animal. The Truth Bombs are anonymous posts that allow guys to ask their most burning questions about love, and enable Lulu users to anonymously reply. This is the first time the app has enabled guys and girls to interact. I don’t want to sound grim, but considering how full of pretense the dating world is these days, this kind of thing may be the only way for some people to seek unbiased opinions — and that makes the questions very enlightening to read.
I’m always a little wary of “ask a girl” or “ask a guy” columns and other set-ups, because one person’s preference doesn’t represent their entire gender. I also feel like those kinds of tropes just dig a deeper wedge between men and women because it implies that they are insanely foreign to each other and need interpreters (not that I’m saying dudes aren’t foreign to me more often than I’d like to admit, but that’s hardly the kind of rift we want to encourage, right?). What makes Truth Bombs more interesting than your average “gender interpreter” scenario is that a whole series of responses from different women can pile up next to the question instead of just one woman replying on behalf of all ladies. It offers a whole range of opinions instead of assuming every woman likes the same thing in a partner. If I’m being honest, in times when I’ve been dating, I’ve had a tendency to think that every potential date I’d come across was out to get me (not likely, I know!). We live in a world of carefully constructed shiny facades and instant gratification, and it made it easy for me to forget that plenty of men were out there feeling just as insecure as women.
I got a little hooked on perusing Truth Bombs (I’ve posted a few of them below) and seeing men’s vulnerable questions remind me that there’s not just a sea of conniving cads out there, and that most of us are just looking for someone who really gets them. The feature rejects the “boys vs. girls” notion and actually enables people to connect and see how the opposite gender thinks (and sometimes have a good laugh at the sillier questions). Everyone wins, right? (Well, everyone except the dude who felt the need to ask whether girls poop). It’s a bummer that it’s so difficult to be honest with one another face-to-face, but at least this keeps lines of communication open somehow. What do you think? Can Truth Bombs and similar online features will this help people make smarter relationships?