Arizona Cardinals Running Back Jonathan Dwyer Arrested For Head Butting His Wife

Arizona Cardinals running back Jonathan Dwyer headbutted his wife, breaking her nose, after she turned him down for sex. He proceeded to lock himself in a bathroom and threaten to kill himself in front of his wife and son if she told the police about the assault.

So that’s four NFL players in some kind of legal trouble over domestic violence in 11 days. Meanwhile, the NFL has been making statements about women as “matriarchs,” citing our community-building skills, ability to produce and raise children, purchasing power, and overall domesticity as the reasons that the NFL likes us. I’m so flattered. I know I was a beacon of domesticity when I yelled so hard at the Patriots for losing to the Giants in Super Bowl XLVI that I had a blood pressure spike and almost fainted.

But that’s the thing. It’s an aggressive sport. The NFL encourages aggressiveness in both fans and in players. The league is starting to make more validating statements about this troubling trend, but how much will acknowledgement count for if they can’t draw a clear line in the sand via actual consequences for the players about what kind of aggressiveness is productive and what’s destructive? Is a six-game suspension really in line with the gravity of domestic violence? (Hint: no. No, it’s not.)