Neil Patrick Harris On Keeping Longterm Love Alive

If you want relationships to last, live by “for better or worse.” Honeymoon phases end. They just do. We’re animals, and animals aren’t inclined to copulate with just each other for the rest of their lives. So here’s a challenge: How do you keep redefining your relationship? I think you have to find new elements that turn you on, and not only sexually. Having kids was one of those great moments for me. Watching David become another level of person, mastering this other domain, made me look at him with a whole other set of appreciative eyes. That sort of made me re-fall in love with him. That’s another important thing to realize. Everyone falls out of love with everything. You fall out of love with your house. You fall out of love with your job. You just have to figure out ways to keep [the love] alive.

I am loving Neil Patrick Harris’ interview in Glamour’s September issue, and this quote about his marriage to David Burtka especially resonates with me. In friendships, work, relationships, and everything else, there seems to be a common belief that if something isn’t fun all the time, it’s not working. Life takes effort sometimes, and that’s the part we never see in romantic comedies. I really admire Neil for being upfront about that. Even though he lives right in the middle of the faux glitz of Hollywood, he always finds a way to be down to earth. [Glamour, Queerty] [Image via AKM-GSI]