Trying to maintain two careers, visual art and music, and to be a mother at the same time, always felt kind of impossible. When you’re feeling that you can and should do everything, then you never feel like you’re going to achieve anything. I think what kept me going was this deep understanding that it wasn’t going to be perfect, and that it didn’t have to be.
God, I love Kim Gordon. The ex-Sonic Youth band member has a piece up at Dame magazine (excerpted from a new book called Mistakes I Made At Work) about the lessons she’s learned as her career and personal life have evolved from artist to bad member to mother to solo artist, sometimes doing all at once. The “having it all” discussion/debate has frustrated me because it all too often sets women up for failure or at least feeling like they’ve failed. But as Kim suggests, if you cut yourself a break and accept that imperfection is a part of life, you have a much better shot at achieving at and having maybe not it all but all that really matters. Check out Gordon’s full essay at the link — and check out the book too, looks cool! [Dame Magazine]