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Taylor Swift On Dating Drama: “If It’s A Game, You Need To Win”

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“[When a guy is jerking you around y]ou don’t respond to any of his texts or calls until he does something desperate [like] shows up. Or he calls and leaves a voice mail. Something that makes it very clear to you that he’s interested. … I think everyone should approach relationships from the perspective of playing it straight and giving someone the benefit of the doubt. Until he establishes that this is a game. And if it’s a game, you need to win. The best thing to do is just walk away from the table.”

In the March issue of Glamour, Taylor Swift recommends the tried-and-true freeze-out. I’m not saying freezing out is a good thing, but it is effective, is it not? (And is it just  me or do we think she honed this technique on John Mayer?)

Glamour also asked the pop star “Is it too clingy and too insecure to say ‘I don’t like it when you don’t text me back right away’?” (Excuse me while I roll my eyes into the back of my head at the thought of more “women are clingy” bullshit.) Taylor actually had some pretty great advice for that one:

“Guarding your heart and protecting your dignity are a little bit more important than clarifying the emotions of someone who’s only texting you back three words. I’ve learned that from trying to figure out people who don’t deserve to be figured out. When someone seems mysterious, we like to romanticize that he’s “deep” or “complicated.” But a lot of the time, things are exactly as they seem…. For a long time I was drawn to — and still am drawn to — people I find very interesting. [But] someone who sits and talks about themselves for an hour, you start to maybe wonder if, rather than trying so hard to be interesting, they could be a little bit more interested.”

I actually love that advice: when a jerk shows you who he is, believe him. No “figuring out” is worth it if the person is just selfish and uninterested. She should write an anthem about that — or has she already? [Glamour]

[Image via Glamour]

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