Actress Maria Bello “Comes Out,” Writes About What “Partnership” Even Means

“And I have never understood the distinction of ‘primary’ partner. Does that imply we have secondary and tertiary partners, too? Can my primary partner be my sister or child or best friend, or does it have to be someone I am having sex with? I have two friends who are sisters who have lived together for 15 years and raised a daughter. Are they not partners because they don’t have sex? And many married couples I know haven’t had sex for years. Are they any less partners?”

Actress Maria Bello, who I just saw last night in the fantastic movie, “Prisoners,” has penned an amazing Modern Love column in today’s New York Times about telling her 12-year-old son that she’s in a romantic relationship with her female best friend. But the piece is about something bigger and broader — our cultural understanding of what it means to be “partnered” with someone and how we value certain partnerships over others. It’s a beautiful, thought-provoking read, sure to strike a chord with anyone for whom the traditional nuclear family does not fit. [NY Times]