Yesterday at a Richardson High School assembly in Texas, students got some … interesting … relationship advice. Motivational speaker Justin Lookadoo — now appropriately deemed #LookADouche by the students — shared questionable “tips” such as telling students that “dateable girls know how to shut up.”
I’m sure that went over wonderfully with fragile 14-year-olds’ self-esteem.
When his name was released a few hours before the assembly was to happen, parents were concerned. Understandably! Lookadoo has co-authored two Bible-based dating books, and if the “dating rules” on his website are any indication, this misogynist extraordinaire shouldn’t be let anywhere near the malleable minds of young people.
Lookadoo’s website offers plenty of unsolicited advice for how to be a “dateable girl,” like:
Need him. Dateable girls know that guys need to be needed. A Dateable girl isn’t Miss Independent. She knows we are made for community. Needing each other is part of faith. She allows him to be needed at times, knowing he was called to serve just as much as she was.
Excuse me? Gender essentialism much?
Oh, but being a dateable guy has rules too, including:
Being a guy is good … They are stronger, more dangerous and more adventurous and that’s okay.”
“Men of God are wild, not domesticated. … They fight battles, conquer lands and stand up for the oppressed.”
Oh, hell no.
Parents tried to get the assembly canceled, and while it was initially postponed, the school eventually decided to continue with the presentation but make it optional to students. The assembly itself wasn’t supposed to have any direct references to these “rules” or express any outright Bible-based teachings. But this is the Internet age, so it took students all of 1- seconds to find the root of what Lookadoo was really trying to teach them. #LookADouche overtook Twitter, and students started walking out of the assembly early. RHS deeply regrets the situation, and the principal has apologized to parents. The one who really needs to apologize is #LookADouche himself, for letting thousands of unassuming kids internalize these awful “rules” and setting them up for a life of emotional confusion.
Lookadoo claims he’s never had such a negative response in thousands of appearances. Cool story, bro.