“I’m not a quitter. I’ve done everything I could to be the perfect wife and mother and really support my husband. But I just didn’t have any more to give, you know? … I knew that I wasn’t feeling 100 percent right [about our marriage]. I found myself on a roller coaster, like, I’m going to keep things moving, keep things going. I’m going to keep up this amazing [façade], everyone looking at me and Rupert, thinking, Oh, wow, you guys have it all…. Really, I had times when I felt very lonely, very disconnected from Rupert. We’d lost our real connection. … We were together for 16 years, and that in itself is really beautiful. And we’ve created two exceptional lives together.”
Model Liberty Ross opens up in December’s Vanity Fair about the Twihard Cheating Scandal Heard ‘Round The World.
From what I can ascertain from the clip posted online, her relationship dissolution story is completely relatable. Well, except for the whole dashingly handsome director husband/internationally famous starlet part.
When Ross and “Snow White And The Huntsman” director Rupert Sanders fell in love they both had skyrocketing careers. But after they married, Ross focused on mothering the couple’s two young children and intentionally allowed her husband’s career to shine. But they increasingly grew distant from each other — and her, perhaps a touch resentful — and then grew apart. That doesn’t make it OK that Sanders got a wandering eye and smooched Kristen Stewart, of course. But Ross sounds like she’s taking ownership for the fact that the relationship had become facade (to use VF‘s word) and wasn’t make either of them happy.
Here’s Ross’ reaction to her ex-husband’s very, very public infidelity:
“It was horrible. It was really the worst, really the worst. … I have no words to describe what we went through. But I think, for me, something always has to completely die for there to be a rebirth. And, for me, I feel like I’m going through a rebirth. … I just visualized [being] this sort of Masai warrior. I was just going to stand very still and very strong, and just let it all roll past me. I tried to keep as far away from it as I could and to understand that this is my family and it’s the most precious thing to me.”
Liberty Ross’ attitude about death and rebirth, in my opinion, is the healthiest way to get through a breakup. Seems like she’s going to be just fine.
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