Poll: Is Emotional Infidelity Worse Than A Physical Affair?

Katie Oldenburg / September 13, 2013

If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the years, it’s that relationships are tough. Even the strongest of bonds are sometimes tested, and temptation becomes a gauge of your willpower and test of your loyalty.

When faced with this situation in my own life, I’ve handled it in three different ways…

  1. I ignored it by cutting ties with the third party. I didn’t allow myself to get sucked in, because at the end of the day, I was in a relationship and it was wrong.
  2. I cheated. My relationship was deteriorating, so I found physical pleasure from someone else.
  3. I emotionally cheated. While I stayed with my significant other, my head and heart were elsewhere. Secretive texting, lunch dates and inappropriate flirting ensued. But nothing physical.

Then recently, a friend of mine confided in me that she thought her boyfriend might be having an affair. When I asked her if she had any proof, she replied, “No, there isn’t. But an emotional affair is worse.”

Her reasoning? You can’t help who you’re attracted to, but you can help how you act on it. Emotional deception is more hurtful than a physical slip-up.

Do you agree?

Vote in our poll below and then from 4-4:30 pm ET, @TheFrisky will be discussing the question and poll results on Twitter. Be sure to join in on the convo and use the hashtag #ThisOrThat. See you then!