How do we feel about this new trend of shaming people by attaching their photos to douchey stuff they say online? I’m not arguing that some of the gents on Nice Guys Of OK Cupid are not pigs. The Tumblr is unmasking all kinds of misogynists and power-hungry freaks. Like, say, the guys who answer “yes” to the question, “Do you think there are certain circumstances a person is obligated to have sex with you?”
However, I also don’t think all of these dudes deserve to be shamed, because some of these supposedly shameful comments are open for interpretation. “NO means NO … mostly occasionally it’s a yes in disguise”? Wrong in most contexts — duh, rape — but not wrong when we’re talking about kink. In the D/s realm, “no” sometimes does not mean “no” because you have a safeword. I have no idea whether that particular man is kinky or not. But on behalf of kinky folks, I don’t appreciate him being publicly accused online of being a would-be rapist when that may not at all be the case.
So, thanks for the heads up about assholes on online dating, I guess? The standards of who is an asshole are just a bit narrow-minded, but hey, it wouldn’t be the first time feminists were judgy about something they didn’t bother to take the time to understand.
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