Ke$ha’s Memoir Is The New “Feminine Mystique”
If you asked me three years ago whether I thought Ke$ha was a positive feminist role model for both myself and millions of other young girls belting out her bravado across the globe, I would have shot you a McKayla Maroney face with a slight “are you serious?” twist.
I was so unimpressed with her song “Blah Blah Blah,” I think I wrote an article about my musical nausea in my high school’s newspaper. However, after a friend played “Grow A Pear” a couple of years later, I found myself hysterically laughing throughout the full three minutes and 29 seconds. I had never heard a female artist sing about “dating a dude with a vag” or “[seeing his] man-gina.” Soon afterward, “Blind” became my anthem on repeat for almost all of 2011, and now my five other roommates and I cannot stop dancing on our dining room table to “Die Young.”
MTV announced Ke$ha as “perhaps the most empowering artist on the planet” in 2010, and Ashley Fetters from The Atlantic completely agrees, citing various passages from Ke$ha’s new autobiography, My Crazy Beautiful Life, about her rising feminist and widely influential antics.
Both Ke$ha’s past and present can attribute to her female emancipation:
1. Before she was born, Ke$ha’s mother wished to have a child, but didn’t want to deal with being in a relationship. Ke$ha’s mom would have her dreams fulfilled when she asked one of her male friends to impregnate her. Ke$ha still has no idea who her father is to this day, and wants to keep it that way. Her mother “played both parental roles for [her] growing up.”
2. Unlike the women that felt unfulfilled and were desperate for a creative outlet in Betty Friedan’s 1963 The Feminine Mystique, Ke$ha writes about how she never stops thinking about her work and songs, waking up in the middle of the night to write lyrics and ideas down.
3. Following in the footsteps of so many male musical artists today, Ke$ha wanted to sing about drinking and sex in her song “Blah Blah Blah” with 3!OH3 to “level the playing field.” She urged women to “talk about men the way men talk about women.”
4. In the central square of Budapest, Ke$ha’s mother wore a penis costume during her “Grow A Pear” performance, dancing about like a mad woman while simultaneously “subverting the symbolism of the phallus.” Talk about an awesomely supportive mom!
5. Last but not least, Ke$ha continuously goes against today’s ideal beauty standards of a flawless face and cutely coiffed hair, painting different things all over her face in every performance and teasing her locks “to get it as big as a lion’s mane.”
I completely agree with Fetters on this one. Yes, Ke$ha is absolutely insane, donning crazy costumes and belting penis-infested lyrics, but “We R Who We R,” and Ke$ha’s off-ness is what is keeping her on my Fearless Feminist Hot List.