Glamour: You never identified who ["Dear John"] was about, but John Mayer recently told Rolling Stone that it was him.
Taylor Swift: How presumptuous! I never disclose who my songs are about.
Glamour: He said he felt…
Swift: No! I don’t want to know, I don’t want to know.
Glamour: You don’t?
Swift: I know it wasn’t good, so I don’t want to know. I put a high priority on staying happy, and I know what I can’t handle.
Glamour: It would hurt too much to hear?
Swift: It’s not that I’m this egomaniac and I don’t want to hear anything negative, because I do keep myself in check. But I’ve never developed that thick a skin. So I just kind of live a life, and I let all the gossip live somewhere else. If you go too far down the rabbit hole of what people think about you, it can change everything about who you are.
On the one hand I’m over John Mayer and Taylor Swift still going back and forth in the media over their breakup. It was years ago, you guys, and it’s not like the rest of the world needs a continuous reminder that you are both very complicated people to date. That being said, I commend Taylor Swift for staying above the fray. Part of being a mature grown up is keeping your distance from melodrama that only serves to get you upset; good on her for knowing that she doesn’t have a thick enough skin to read US Weekly. It’s the celebrity version of not Facebook-stalking your ex. “I put a high priority on staying happy, and I know what I can’t handle” is a piece of advice all of us non-famous ladies can surely use, too. [Glamour]