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NOFX’s Fat Mike Talks His BDSM Lifestyle, Persecution For Being Kinky

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Fat Mike of NOFX

“I haven’t always been open but I always felt lucky that there was something in my life that I felt passionate about. I think most people don’t feel that way about sex. But yeah, I’ve had a dungeon in my house for the past 20 years. … Both me and my girlfriend [who is a dominatrix] are kind of missionaries. I think it should be talked about. It should be out in the open because people don’t enjoy their desires enough. You’re allowed to do whatever the fuck you want as long as it’s consensual. You might as well live out your fantasies and not be ashamed of it.”

I’ve never listened to NOFX, so I had never heard of Fat Mike (aka Mike Burkett). But now I’m kind of in love with his mind right now. The singer spoke to VICE about a new record and had a whole conversation about being kinky and into BDSM — that’s bondage, dominance and sadomasochism. Everything he’s saying here is stuff I’ve wanted to scream from the rooftops. After the jump, he talks about the persecution of BDSM as a “deviant sexuality.”

“It’s so unfair because the transgender, bisexual, gay, and lesbian communities have their groups. They’re all together. They’re all considered one gender or sexual minority. They all lobby together and the BDSM community is not invited ever. [Laughs] And yeah there is a big community and my girlfriend is a big part of that. She teaches classes and she’s very prominent in that community. Society really does not accept BDSM and it does have a negative connotation. … We won’t be added to LGBTQIA because our lifestyle isn’t considered genetic. It’s more of a choice. … There was a case in Europe that I actually donated money to about 15 years ago. It’s called the Spanner Case. Four men were practicing BDSM in their basement and doing pretty rough stuff, dick piercings and stuff, and they made a video. The video got out and they were prosecuted for something they were doing in the privacy of their own home. They went to court and got sentenced to eight years. It went to the British Supreme Court and they didn’t overturn it. It went to the European Supreme Court and they didn’t overturn it. So those four dudes did that time for basically piercing each other’s dicks in the privacy of their own home. … When it comes to shit like that, there’s a problem. There’s a lot of doms who have had their kids taken away because of what they do on their own time. This is looked at as a deviant sexual lifestyle. But we’re just having hotter sex than everyone else, you know!”

I don’t think what Fat Mike is saying about a division between the BDSM community and the LGBT community is entirely true, at least in my experience. In New York City, I’ve seen them overlap a bit. But he does have a point — a very, very, very good point — that people who practice BDSM are misunderstood as being abusers and abused. Some are just considered fucked-up (no thanks you to, Dr. Drew) while others worry about literally having their kids taken away from them. I know that when I attended a spanking party a few months ago, I chatted with someone who works in a public school system and was terrified of anyone in his workplace discovering and “outing” his kink. That’s wrong.

In other news, congratulations, VICE interview Benjamin Shapiro, for conducing an entire interview about BDSM without once mentioning 50 Shades Of Grey. [VICE]

Contact the author of this post at Jessica@TheFrisky.com. Follow me on Twitter and Tumblr.

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