“Whatever my friend Rihanna wants to do. It’s whatever she wants to do. [To] forgive is a word that people need to rethink and actually figure out whether they can do that, or if they’re just saying that they can forgive and they actually can’t and don’t possess the power to do that. And [Rihanna] does, [and] I do, along with a lot of people I know do. You know we’re all human at the end of the day. This isn’t ‘hey, [I'm] sticking up for this person, or whatever.’ It’s not about that. It’s really about what I was taught as a kid. This is how I thought the world was supposed to work, you know. We want forgiveness when it’s us, but we don’t want forgiveness when it’s somebody else. It’s like you’re in a glass house and and you’re casting rocks out … You’re just shattering your own house because the same willingness you have to not forgive someone else, you have to understand that one day you’re going to have a child and that child may do something that you don’t sincerely approve of. But you have to start to understand that we are human and this is how it is.”
– The Dream, who produced Rihanna’s song “Birthday Cake” that she remixed with her abusive ex-boyfriend Chris Brown, tells PopCrush what he thinks about the controversy.
Philosophically I agree with The Dream’s beliefs about forgiveness and how people in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones. However, this isn’t just a personal relationship we’re discussing (and we’ve already had a separate debate about the message Rihanna and Chris are sending to their fans). There is a business relationship here, as well, and it’s kind of “Toddlers & Tiaras” stage parent-y, to follow along with his “child” analogy. We can’t be oblivious to the fact that victims of abuse face a lot of social pressure to “make nice” with their abusers, including when it comes to making $$$. As her “Birthday Cake” producer, isn’t The Dream financially benefitting from an abused woman doing a remix with her abuser? He may not have forced her to do it, but it doesn’t sound like he said, “Hell no, we’re not having anything to do with your abuser,” either. I don’t think it’s particularly ethical to preach about “forgiveness” when he’s financially benefitting from the situation. [PopCrush]
Update: Originally this post went up with a picture of The Game, not The Dream. Sorry.
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