Was My Bikini Waxer Trying To Be Insulting Or Helpful?

This has been the summer of strange bikini waxing experiences. First, a waxer I found through a Living Social deal was a double-dipper. Then last week, I tried another waxer, who I found through Groupon. I had a rather pleasant experience, but something the esthetician said has confused me, and I’m not sure if I should be insulted or thankful she was trying to help me.Most of my life, I assumed everyone’s bikini and pubic areas were darker than the rest of their bodies, even though these areas rarely see direct sunlight. I thought that was one of those weird biology things that I’d never understand. So I was surprised when, after commenting on all my ingrown hairs, she asked me how long my bikini area had been that dark. I said years and thought probably all my life. Then, she said I should show my doctor because the color is unnatural. What!?! Now, I need to see a doctor?!

Considering her occupation, I figured the waxer knew a thing or two about what shade my bikini area should be, and I began to question my initial assumption. Of course, I’m not going to pay an exorbitant co-pay to see a doctor about this non-problem. But I will at least try a home remedy the esthetician recommended.

I don’t necessarily want to lighten the area, but she said the at-home remedy would help to heal and prevent ingrown hairs, which were a result of my previous waxing blunder. It’s a pretty basic remedy — mix honey, brown sugar, and a few drops of lemon to create a paste. Leave it on for about 10 minutes, and then rinse thoroughly. She said I should use the concoction a week after the wax, so I haven’t tried it yet, but will definitely report when I do.

I appreciate that the waxer not only “diagnosed” a problem, but also offered a solution. However, I’m not completely convinced that everyone else’s pubic area isn’t just as dark, comparatively speaking. And I feel a bit insulted because I don’t necessarily think she should have commented at all … especially not to a new customer.

So this begs the question, is your bikini and pubic area darker than the rest of your body? Does it bother you? Also, how do you treat ingrown hairs?