Deadbeat dads should be stigmatized by society just like drunk drivers, UK Prime Minister David Cameron wrote in a Father’s Day article for the Telegraph newspaper. Cameron blasted what he called “runaway” fathers and said society should be “genuinely hostile” and make them feel the “full force of shame heaped upon them.” The prime minister wrote:
“They should be looked at like [drunk] drivers, people who are beyond the pale. They need the message rammed home to them, from every part of our culture, that what they’re doing is wrong — that leaving single mothers, who do a heroic job against all odds, to fend for themselves simply isn’t acceptable.”
He also tooted his own horn on his plan to give tax breaks to married couples, which some people believe encourage stability. I believe men who don’t financially support their progeny should be punished, unless they make it clear from the get-go that they have no desire to be in the child’s life. An example of this would be the memoir, Rattled, about a young woman who became pregnant and chose to raise the baby by herself with the father giving up all legal rights to the child. (Men should emotionally support their progeny as well, of course, but alas that’s too intangible to prove.) You can’t force someone to want to parent their kids properly. But you should force someone to either give up their rights to the child or provide the bare bones of financial support to get the job done right.
However, I’m skeptical of some of David Cameron’s remarks. The prime minister wrote that he thinks it’s best when a family has “two different people, nurturing the same child [who] will bring different things to the table.” But we have to emphasize the word nurturing here. What if Dad is physically, emotionally or sexually abusive, or has a drug or alcohol addiction? I speak from zero personal experience on this because I had a loving and caring father, but it seems to me some moms and their kids are actually relieved when a screwed up, unstable dad isn’t in the picture. And vice versa, when Mom is the nightmare parent. [Telegraph UK]