Should Female Friends Be Excluded From Bachelor Parties?
Straight off schooling Robert Pattinson in the art of telling a joke at the MTV Movie Awards this weekend, Reese Witherspoon has announced her newest project and it is, naturally, a comedy. Reese will produce and star in “Who Invited Her?” the tale of a woman who tags along to a bachelor party weekend. The movie is being hailed as, “A Bridesmaid gets a Hangover,” leading me to believe that it will be comedy that’s not afraid to go there—”there” meaning sex, stripper, and bathroom humor galore. New territory for sweet, “good girl” Reese. [Huffington Post]
We’ll have to wait a while to see this flick, but already the topic is ringing true to me. As a woman who has several guys that are close friends, I’ll totally admit that, every now and then, I feel a little bummed when I’m not invited to a bachelor party. Take for example, last fall. One of my good male friends was getting married and his Best Man (also a buddy) planned a bachelor weekend for him—surfing (an activity I’ve mentioned to both these guys that I am itching to master) in North Carolina (which happens to be my home state). Even though I hang out with virtually all of the guys on the guest list regularly, I wasn’t invited because, well, I have a vagina.
Part of me understood that an all-guy bachelor party is the tradition. I get that having one or two women in the midst—even if they’re down for whatever—does change a group’s dynamic, especially if people are wanting to go to strip clubs, etc. (I don’t get why that’s the bachelor tradition, but I’ll skip over debating that here.) But the other part of me felt left out. Like the one girl who hadn’t been invited to the slumber party in middle school. I mean, really—did they think me being there would ruin the fun? Ouch.
In the end, even though I was a little hurt, I decided to suck it up and not mention it to the Best Man or Groom. But I’m not sure I made the right decision. I’m curious what you guys think. We are a generation where a person’s closest friends are unlikely to be of a single gender. So does splitting up on gender lines for bachelor and bachelorette parties make sense?