I was at a flea market this weekend with a friend, relishing in my new discovery that yes, despite the fact that I am only five-feet tall, I can actually wear three-quarter-length skirts as long as I wear heels, when I happened upon the perfect new skirt. The only trouble? My friend Sarah thought it was the perfect new skirt, too — for her. At first, her praise of the brightly-colored button-down vintage skirt (priced at a reasonable $20) was neutral. Until she tried the skirt on, too, and realized it fit her (at a good eight inches taller than me) just as well as me. “Wellllll, you know, that skirt is exactly what I’ve been looking for…” she said, her voice trailing off. “Do you want it?” I asked.
“It’s kind of what I’m looking for. It’s just like a bunch of skirts I got rid of last year. Why did I do that?”
I bought it anyway, on the grounds that I spotted it first, and in the world of flea market shopping, that counts for a lot. But just as often, I’ve acquiesced and handed over a garment to a friend because they really wanted it more. Hell, half the time, I enjoy “personal shopping” and picking out items for friends more than I like shopping for myself. And I can’t really think of a time when I’ve absolutely been heartbroken over a friend or shopping mate grabbing something I really thought I needed to have instead. But I’m sure it’s happened.
What do you do when your friends get what you want? Do you beg them for the item in question? And conversely, when you’ve got something your friends have got to have, do you usually give it up?