Hands down, the best thing about working at The Frisky is our amazing readers. We so heart all of your witty, thoughtful, and informative comments—heck, we even appreciate the mean ones. Sometimes, we can’t help but wonder about the faces behind the avatars. So we decided to launch a weekly column where we learn all about a Frisky reader. After the jump, meet painted_lady, one of our most prolific commenters. Please state your name, age, and location for The Friskyverse.
MK, 28, Texas
How did you find the site?
I don’t even remember. I was functionally unemployed for over a year after I finished grad school, and I spent many, many days doing job searches on the Internet. I’m sure that was when I stumbled on it.
What do you do all day, other than follow The Frisky, which is totally condoned?
I teach — which is why I left some of this vague and the picture obscure. My kids are weird and have been known to hunt me down on facebook and try to friend me (doesn’t work). At this moment I have two more weeks till summer, and I am so ready to be out! I love my kids, but we need a break from each other.
What is your fave post in recent Frisky history?
I love anything personal and positive. Ami’s recent story about covertly helping another woman to succeed was amazing, as was Jessica’s post on the commencement address Sheryl Sandberg made. I’m a total feminist, but sometimes it’s more pro-active to show the ways we can help each other achieve rather than decry the ways we as women get the short end of the stick. That’s useful, too, because awareness is crucial, but figuring out great ways women can take action is every bit as necessary.
What are your pop culture guilty pleasures?
Oh, I love, love, love Ted Casablanca’s “Blind Vice.” I’m also addicted to “True Blood” and “Millionaire Matchmaker.” All of it’s totally trashy and my tastes are generally way classier. Doesn’t mean I’m any less obsessed, though!
Team Edwards or Team Jacob?
Team Eric Northman! “Twilight”‘s campy fun, but as I’m in a long-distance relationship I don’t need any more teases, thank you.
Can you share your most embarrassing dating story? We always share ours. It’s only fair.
I guess the funniest one was my junior year of college. I was sort of dating this guy from out of town when I got my class ring, and it was a huge deal at my college. I threw a big party the night I got it, and he came in, along with my mother. My mom got bored with the college party thing, so when the guy and I went party-hopping, she stayed behind and hung out with one of my roommates. She was asleep in my room when we got home, so I left him on the couch and went to sleep on my bedroom floor. I sleep like the dead on a good night, so I didn’t wake up at all when he inexplicably knocked on my door…but my mom sure did. He apparently didn’t hear me when I told him my mom was sleeping in my bed, and he didn’t have the sense not to tell my mother he was looking for me. Since I slept through the entire conversation, I woke up the next morning to some really awkward questions.
Do you consider yourself a feminist? Why or why not?
Oh, definitely! I actually sparked a massive class debate my first year of grad school when the professor for whom I was a TA let me do a lecture on feminist theater. It was fascinating because some of the poor freshman didn’t know what had hit them, and some of them — and not just the girls! — were incredibly staunch feminists as well. It gave me hope that so many of these kids had opinions on equal rights for everyone. For me, feminism is about choices, from the obvious facets such as traditional versus nontraditional gender roles we’ve all debated like crazy on The Frisky to gay marriage and reproductive rights. I don’t understand how anyone feels they have the right to strip someone of the right to determine their own best course of action. Don’t want any of these things? Great, then don’t do them. But as I would never force any of those things on an unwilling person (how awful!) I don’t understand how anyone else could force the opposite on me. Isn’t that every bit as much a violation?
If The Frisky staff came over for dinner, what would you serve us?
Oh, I love cooking! My roommate is fabulous — when we have the same weekends off (it’s rare) we spend all weekend in the kitchen with “Star Wars” or “Harry Potter” on. Anyway, I would make my veggie lasagna — butternut squash, oyster mushrooms and pistachios — and my boyfriend’s bruschetta on my homemade bread. [Jessica's Note: YUM! Care the share the recipe for that lasagna?] For dessert, it would be mixed berries in a mascarpone white chocolate cream sauce.
What type of skivvies do you have on right now?
Striped ones. I’m a fan of stripes.
What is your secret talent?
I’m a good caricature artist. I discovered it pretty recently. I was doodling and drawing a random cartoony face. When I finished, I realized it was my roommate. So the next task was to go back and figure out how to do it on purpose. I eventually did, and I’m thinking I may start making gifts of them.
What’s an amazing book or movie that other Frisky readers absolutely must get their hands on right now?
Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides is my absolute favorite book. Also, I think The Red Tent by Anita Diamant should be required reading for all women.
Which celeb would you most want to get in bed with? Which celeb would you most want to marry?
Bed: Ryan Reynolds. His abs make me want to cry. Marry: Marcus Mumford as his smile gives me goosebumps and I could listen to him sing for the rest of my life. Alternately, I would settle for bedding Marcus Mumford and marrying Chris O’Dowd. Both of them remind me a little of my boyfriend, so I guess I’m on the right track!
What’s something you hope to see more of on The Frisky?
I love the romantic relationship and dating articles, don’t get me wrong. But if we could see some more personal accounts of women’s perspectives on friendship and work life and family, that would be wonderful. I love hearing about other people’s romantic drama as much as the next person, but I also feel like the readers and the writers are all so much more well-rounded.