Dear Wendy Updates: “165 And Ready To Run” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “165 And Ready To Run,” whose boyfriend confessed to her that he was really bothered by her 8-pound weight gain and it was the reason he had been seeming distant. “Since he told me, he has been affectionate and loving again; he says he just needed to get it off his chest and now everything will be fine. But I’m pissed. Is it worth it for me to put up with his shallowness?” After the jump, find out whether she decided to keep putting up with his shallowness or if she MOA’d. “He Confessed to Sleeping With Someone Else”

I very much appreciated the advice you gave. (Even though the comments were all deleted from what I remember…) [Ed. Note — Not deleted just still being transferred from Pluck to Disqus.] The readers were incredibly supportive, and really called him (and me) out on our crap. It was what I needed to hear.It took some time, but after about a month I ended it. He wasn’t at all surprised and didn’t even seem hurt. He said he saw it coming, had dealt with it on his own, and was ready to move on. This hurt. I had poured so much of myself into our relationship, and it broke my heart to end it. He was seriously just ready to move on? Well, alright then.

Fast forward: It has been almost three months. He desperately wants me back and told me his life is “in shambles” without me. I have communicated to him exactly how hurt I was by his “shallowness,” lack of communication and blame-game tactics and I’m over it. I think he is a wonderful person who will make the right girl very happy one day. The weight comment really did affect me for some time though. I never used to let my ex see me naked or touch my stomach. Right now, I’m seeing a wonderful guy who really does make me feel beautiful. I am happy to report that yesterday, I spent three hours lounging naked (and confident) with my new guy. To feel good in my own skin again is wonderful.

Y’all are smart. I should have taken your advice sooner.

Better late than never! Glad to hear you’ve moved on and that your new guy sounds so great.

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If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at {encode=”[email protected]” title=”[email protected]”} with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.