Dear Wendy Updates: “Grossed Out” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Grossed Out,” who was grossed out by her boyfriend not washing his hands after using the bathroom, and leaving evidence of nosebleeds in the shower. After the jump, find out whether she talked with her boyfriend and if situation has improved. Dear Wendy: “He Never Expresses His Feelings For Me. Should I MOA?”

Thanks for running my letter! I read the comments and the ones who point out that I do gross stuff too are totally right. I also realize that my letter came off as awfully picky/nagging and I know it’s weird that I was unconsciously paying enough attention to him in the bathroom to be able to tell that he wasn’t fully washing his hands. That aside, though, on top of the things I said about him being a wonderful, patient human being, I also had another talk with him about this stuff where I explained that I love him and I know it’s nagging but these two things kind of annoyed me (and were objectively gross, I believed), and he totally understood and has since changed his behavior. I’m lucky to have such a patient guy, and I’m trying my best to watch my own behavior/habits and get feedback from him. People who live in glass houses, etc.

Glad to hear you’re working things out. Still, I don’t think it’s nagging to ask a guy not to leave his nosebleeds in the shower. But, hopefully, he’s not doing that anymore.

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If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at {encode=”[email protected]” title=”[email protected]”} with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.