Dear Wendy Updates: “Offended Bridesmaid” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Offended Bridesmaid” whose sister, the bride, chastised her for not being skinny enough to fit into her bridesmaid dress. Offended Bridesmaid explained that she was worried she might have a thyroid problem, to which her sister responded: “I know your eating habits — you just eat too much.” After the jump, find out how the two sisters are doing today.Dear Wendy: “Am I A Selfish Bride?”

I’m really happy that I sent you my letter and received your advice and all the comments as well. I will clarify about my weight issue: I went and got tested for a thyroid disorder and it came back normal. I would like to say that I don’t feel that I was using it as an excuse. I knew that I was overweight and it was my SIL who told me that she thought I had it, it wasn’t a case of me searching on the internet for excuses. Last year, I quit smoking and tore a ligament in my ankle, limiting my mobility for a few months. That, coupled with overeating, led to me being overweight. I have since lost 36 lbs and my BMI is now in the normal range. I plan to continue my diet until I get back to my original weight.

About my sister: she continued to be a bridezilla and when I got engaged six weeks before her wedding she had a less than joyful response. While she hasn’t apologized for her behavior, she has been extra nice to me which leads me to believe that she feels guilty. At some point I will explain to her how she made me feel and how she needs to filter her thoughts like a normal person (just kidding) right now doesn’t seem like the right time. While I have been planning my wedding her behavior has been a reminder that I need to be gracious and understand that my wedding isn’t as important to other people as it is to me. I have decided to “kill her with kindness.”

Thanks for the update, and good luck with your wedding!

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