Dear Wendy Updates: “Excited But Lost” Responds (Again)

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Excited But Lost,” who we first heard from last August when she was eager to start dating after being diagnosed bipolar a year and a half earlier and working on managing her disorder and getting her life on track. She updated us with some not-so-good news in November, but has a new update for us now with much better news, after the jump.“I Had a Threesome and Now I’m Pregnant”

I wrote you back in August about being bipolar and wanting to date, and I updated you in November that, after experiencing a depressive episode, I wasn’t really ready to do so. I’m not sure if two updates are okay, but I felt compelled to send another after some recent and totally awesome events. It turns out that the missing piece to my dating conundrum was being honest with myself as to who I was and what I really wanted in a relationship. In early January, I came out to my best friend who then helped me set up an OKCupid account looking for a lesbian relationship. Within a week I was daily messaging and later texting with a wonderful woman from my city. We recently met up in person and are now “official”. When it comes to silly little likes and dislikes and superficial stuff it doesn’t always overlap (like our music tastes); but when it comes to the things that really matter we see eye to eye. We were both at the point in our lives where we were happy and content with ourselves and where were going, but we just didn’t have anyone to share that happiness with. She is my missing piece. I could never have picked a better partner for myself and I’m so excited to see what the future brings us.

Thank you for your advice to not be afraid to make that first move; it was so worth it! I feel that I am truly happy for the first time in my life. I am well aware that this fuzzy glow of new love will have to dissipate eventually, but I feel that we have what it takes for a long term relationship and I can’t wait! Additionally, I’m no longer on birth control (which I believe was triggering my episodes) and I’m doing well enough that I only have to attend my support group every other week and see my therapist on an as-needed basis. Basically, my life totally rocks right now, and I thought that I should up-update you something much better than my November note.

Congrats on the happier place you’re in. Just make sure you keep in touch with your therapist and support group for those times that aren’t necessarily great. They come for all of us, after all, whether we’re bipolar or not. But definitely enjoy where you are now — you’ve earned it!

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