Dear Wendy Updates: “Conflicted About Moving” Responds
It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Conflicted About Moving,” whose boyfriend dumped her after she quit her job to move with him. Luckily, she was able to get her job back, but her boyfriend reunited with her and asked her to quit her job again to move for her. “He’s suggesting I leave a resignation letter the day of and never return, but that’s just not my style.” she wrote. “Is it fair to quit my job twice within a week’s time? What would you do?” I told her to dump the guy of course, and after the jump, you’ll find out whether she followed my advice and how she’s doing now.
Unfortunately, I didn’t take your advice and I moved in with my boyfriend, hours from my home and support group of family and friends. I was lucky to find a job (that doesn’t pay nearly as well as my old job) and enrolled in a good school. It hasn’t been easy at all! My boyfriend and I have broken up a bunch of times in the few months that I’ve been here. One argument resulted in him asking me to pack my bags and move in with one of his girlfriends, where I’m paying way too much for rent. We are still trying to make it work but I can’t help but resent him and myself for making the move in the first place. I had established my independence back home and was so proud of it, only to move here and be completely dependent on my boyfriend who doesn’t seem worth it. I wish I would have taken your advice.
Girl, enough with the drama. Quit that boyfriend once and for all and start living your life for you. This guy clearly has no respect for you and isn’t worth all the misery he’s put you through. Take your life back. Now! Do it before five years go by and you write to me again saying, “I really should have listened to you…” Listen now.
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