Dear Wendy Updates: “In Love, Maybe” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “In Love, Maybe,” who had a great vacation fling in a foreign city that she hoped might turn into something more. “Once I got home, everything seemed dull without him,” she wrote.”The life we’d jokingly talked about having together sounded good. We started emailing a little. Without saying anything about it, I’ve started learning his language and saving money to go back.” After the jump, find out what happened when she did finally go back.Dear Wendy: 20 Signs You Need to MOA!

I want to make it clear that I signed it “In Love, Maybe” very much tongue-in-cheek, but I guess it didn’t seem that way to you or many readers, which maybe made me sound more naive than I really am and colored some of the advice. Anyway, I was touched by the people who said “maybe” and the similar experiences people shared, and especially took to heart your very good point that there was no need to rush anything. So I did slow down, in my plans, in my heart, and in communication. I did go back to visit him, though, after five months of occasional friendly/flirty emails. We spent several gorgeous days together having more great sex and great talks–but with the end result that we both know we don’t have enough to keep a long-distance and eventually no-distance relationship going. Everything has worked out so well that I can’t even be sorry there won’t be anything more–and I’m so glad that I’m not going to spend the rest of my life wondering “what if?” Thanks so much to you and your readers. — Happy Memories, but Not In Love

Thanks for the update. Sounds like it was a happy ending, even if it wasn’t necessarily a “storybook ending.”

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