It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from Confused College Girl” who had outgrown her long-distance relationship with an unambitious two-time college dropout. “The long distance seems to wear on me more and more as I see all my college friends leading a single life and experiencing things that I can’t, and I wonder if I’m missing out.” After the jump, find out whether she MOA’d or not.
Dear Wendy: “Are All College Guys Jerks?”
It took me four months to take your advice. I kept hoping that we could resuscitate our once-good relationship, but after struggling all semester to get back into the school of his choice, my now ex-boyfriend got rejected due to poor grades yet again and I starting feeling like I was more of a caretaker than a girlfriend. He came to visit me at college one weekend and I told him that I just didn’t feel it anymore, and I wasn’t happy. I broke up with him a week before our third anniversary. Right now he’s still living at home, and we have discussed the reasons that I left. He makes me feel guilty for leaving by saying things about how depressed he is now that I’m gone and that I will probably never find anyone who treats me as well as he did. I told him that he can always call me if he needs someone to talk to but I’m not coming back, and I have urged him to rely on his friends for support. I don’t regret my decision and I’m looking forward to being able to go out with my friends and have a good time without worrying about having to take care of him. Thanks, Wendy. I should have taken your advice sooner.
Better late than never! Now go out and enjoy yourself and quit worrying about your ex.
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