Dear Wendy Updates: “Present Tense” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Present Tense,” who wasn’t crazy about the pearl necklace her boyfriend of one year gave her for Christmas and worried he was going to give her something similar for her upcoming birthday. “I don’t want to seem like I’m not grateful, because I am, but I never wear jewelry and am not really a fan of pearls.” She said. “Should I just act like I like it and let him buy me another or is there some way I can let him know that pearls just aren’t my thing?” After the jump, find out whether she got another pearl necklace for her birthday or not.Dear Wendy: “My Fiancé Won’t Get Rid of His Old Wedding Pictures!”

Thanks so much for your advice, it was great! I mentioned to him how much I loved the necklace and have been wearing it often, but I also noted that I don’t wear jewelry very often so the one piece should be enough. When my birthday rolled around he ended up getting me amazing cold weather running clothes, just like I had mentioned to him that I needed. I felt a bit weird coming right out and saying ‘get me this’ (I’m not usually in a relationship long enough to get to any real gift-giving so this is all new to me) but when I mentioned that I don’t wear much jewelry he asked a few questions about what sort of things I do wear often, and clearly paid attention because he’s done an excellent job picking gifts since then. Thank you again for the great advice. All the comments I read were very helpful too!

This is a good reminder that when you’re lucky enough to be in a relationship with someone who wants to make you happy and asks what he can do to make you happy, never hesitate to give him clues, gift-related or otherwise. Making things easy for your partner benefits you both.

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