Dear Wendy Updates: “Low Confidence” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Low Confidence” who had just started online dating after getting her weight under control. With very minimal dating experience at all, she got a little freaked out when her first potential online match flaked and disappeared after she asked him out. “I was really starting to like the guy, as much as you can like someone you’ve never met, so it’s a bit disappointing that when I finally thought I might get to meet a nice guy, it doesn’t seem to have worked out. I decided to get back on the horse and have begun communication with two other guys, but I’m worried the same thing will happen again.” After the jump, find out if she indeed got back on the horse and how things are going for her today.

I want to sincerely thank you and your readers for the advice you gave me about my online dating problems and my confidence level. I figured I was making a mountain out of a mole hill, but sometimes you just need to hear that other people have been in your shoes and that it sucked when it happened to them too. A lot of my friends married their high school or college sweethearts and didn’t really date in the “real world” as I call it, so sometime it’s hard to go to them for advice in dating. Shortly after you answered my letter, I went out with a nice guy I met on the internet. He was very kind and funny, and definitely boosted my confidence. We dated for about two months, but ultimately it didn’t work out for various reasons and we both moved on. All in all, I went on twice as many dates in 2010 than in 2009, so 2011 should be looking up! I decided this year to take your advice and the advice of some of the commenters and try something different from online dating. I’ve joined a triathlon club, a new church, and I’m making lots of friends in my new adopted hometown. I wanted you and your readers to know that you really helped me and made me realize that it’s not always me; guys get nervous and flake out too, and I shouldn’t let it bother me. I’m no longer going to waste my time on guys that just want pen pals or texting buddies, and I’m going to have fun and enjoy dating this year. To have a forum to go to that didn’t judge me and was genuinely supportive, well, that’s just awesome. Thank you. — (Formerly) Low Confidence

Sounds like you have a wonderful attitude! Keep it up, have fun, try to see each relationship as a learning experience and sooner or later, you’ll meet that special someone. Thanks for the update, and best of luck to you.

If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at {encode=”[email protected]” title=”[email protected]”} with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.

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