What Makes A Woman Girlfriend Material, According To Men

When it comes to getting a man to settle down with you, we’ve all heard advice like “hold out on sex” or “be unavailable.” But if that worked, nuns, Olympic athletes, and frigid work-a-holics would be like dude catnip. So, clearly, we need to go straight to the source to find out what makes a man wanna call you his girl. We asked a bunch of guys this: “What makes a gal girlfriend material?” Turns out, it isn’t a big ol’ juicy bandokandok. Their real answers might surprise you …

“A keeper is someone you feel at home around. Sex is good and all, but it’s nice when you can feel yourself around them without trying to impress them. Someone who makes me laugh is always a plus, or that we can laugh at the same stuff. Also, it’s nice to feel like I’m not the only thing that’s of interest to her, I like someone who is driven creatively and has their own thing going on. Otherwise, a lady is in danger of smothering and that’s no fun for anyone. A good lady should inspire you to be a better person, and vice versa.” – Robert, 30

“I know she’s girlfriend material when no matter what’s going on, you feel better seeing a text from her, or when she walks into the room.” – Brad, 28

“Hard to say. I think it’s personality and the way she handles herself in different situations. Someone who is high-maintenance, or can’t hang out with my friends is a no-no. So, I guess that would be it — she has to be able to hang out with my friends, but also keep her feminine side intact while doing so. And loyalty is a big thing too. Usually, when she’s hanging out with my friends, I can tell where that loyalty resides.” – Josh, 31

“I look for a woman who is confident and strong. She doesn’t have to have everything worked out, but having goals and the work ethic to get there is important. Otherwise, she’ll probably never understand why I work so hard myself. Also, the acceptance of what I like to do and not a desire or idea that I’ll stop doing it once we are together. And being a redhead doesn’t hurt!” – Matt, 33

“Someone that wants me, but doesn’t need me; is smarter than me; is jealous of me; who loves me more than I love her; who drives me to be better at what I do; who makes me feel superior, and at the same time inferior; who loves her family; and who enjoys playing sports, but not really watching them.” – Drew, 24

“Someone who doesn’t play games when she wants something; she asks for it clearly. She knows to give a guy space when he needs it, and doesn’t make him feel like s**t about it afterwards. A woman who understands that just because a guy doesn’t always want to make love— he just wants to f**k — doesn’t mean he doesn’t care about you, or he’s objectifying you. And when you’ve done something to bother or hurt her, she will just say it outright … and once you apologize to her she accepts it and moves on.” – Brandon, 36

“When you find out that she swallows. No, no, actually, when I like her so much I get jealous that she might be doing other guys, that’s when I want to be monogamous.” – Jon, 34