Dear Wendy Updates: “Real World Weary” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Real World Weary,” a recent college grad who found herself underemployed and with a suddenly depleted social circle as her friends found jobs elsewhere and moved away.

“I feel disconnected and lost, like everyone’s moving forward with their lives and I’m stuck in place. […] My mom keeps assuring me that when I get a job everything will fall into place and my Grand Adventure will begin. In the meantime, how do I regain my sanity and my social life?”

After the jump, find out if she’s managed to regain her sanity and social life and if her “Grand Adventure” has finally begun.

First and foremost, I wanted to thank you for responding to my email about post-graduation life, namely what to do when it seemed like nothing was going right and everyone else was moving on. Your feedback was invaluable, the perfect combination of a kick in the ass and genuine understanding. Just because my “adventure” wasn’t immediately taking shape as I thought it was supposed to didn’t mean that wasn’t in and of itself an exciting time. Also a huge thanks to everyone who responded in the comments: knowing that you guys had been in the same place and came out smiling made me realize that I wasn’t the only one floundering.

I’m happy to report that things have fallen into place beautifully. I was just offered a job and have been seeing a great guy for the past few months. But more than employment and a relationship, you helped me gain an incredibly healthy perspective on life: that this, too, shall pass. So I’m enjoying the high times while they last, but I know that when the rough patches start again I’ll get through them, too.

Thanks for the update — I’m so glad to hear you’re doing well!

If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at {encode=”[email protected]” title=”[email protected]”} with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.

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