Dear Wendy Updates: “Dude Dilemma” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Dude Dilemma,” the woman who was approached by a guy she had a “fun” first date with about getting a hotel room for their second date. “I declined the hotel offer,” she wrote, “but he pushed the issue, suggesting it would ‘make our relationship stronger.'” She asked me what I’d do if I were in her position and I said I’d MOA (move on already). After the jump, find out if she did just that.

I was one of the last letters you got in the first installment of MOA. (I’m the one who got a request to get a hotel room two days after a first date with what I thought was a great guy). Initially, I thought your response was hasty and not much advice at all, but there was a comment left by a reader that was spot on. The comment basically advised me to proceed with caution and that his subsequent behavior would let me know his true intentions. After about four “dates” (I use quotation marks because he didn’t spend a single red cent on any of the outings we went on), he exhibited much more childish, deal-breaking behavior and I would have been much better off if I had proceeded to the exit sign after our first date. He’s not a bad person, but he’s definitely not right for me. I’m still glad I didn’t take your advice immediately because I learned a lot about what I want and don’t want from a boyfriend. Now maturity and financial stability are much higher on my list of priorities.

Hey, if four dates is what you needed to figure out this guy was a loser, so be it. I’m just glad you got there eventually!

If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at {encode=”[email protected]” title=”[email protected]”} with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.

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