It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Teaching Class,” a young teacher who worries that another young teacher in her school was making a fool of herself by acting too quirky. “Part of me wants to go and have a gentle conversation with ‘Jane’ about professionalism, especially since I think it is hurting her relationship with her students in addition to staff, but I wouldn’t know what to say.” I advised “Teaching Class” to let a supervisor be the one to talk professionalism with Jane, and instead, seek out her friendship if she was so inclined. After the jump, find out if she followed that advice.
You answered my question a few weeks ago about my fellow teacher who does incredibly bizarre things. You said I should email you with updates, but it is hard to update when the advice given was to leave well enough alone rather than try to change something :) I appreciated your advice, and it lifted a burden from me. I can now just enjoy the presence of my coworker rather than worrying what I should say to her, and we’ve spoken about a party she will be having soon, so I hope I can go and get to know her better as you suggested. I have a habit of meddling, and I needed to be reminded of that before I made a potentially big mistake.
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.
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