Good On Paper, “Meh” In Real Life?
We’ve all met somebody who fits the description: really, really great on paper, but not able to translate that into much of anything in person. I thought about it recently because I heard from a guy I used to date — one who is sooooo perfect on paper. He’s an attractive lawyer who owns his own house, rides motorcycles, and has a dog, but something in person just didn’t make sense for us. He was perfectly lovely, kind, considerate and thoughtful. He was also driven, ambitious, and had an adventurous spirit. But the cliche spark we were supposed to feel for each other was nonexistent. He remains a friend — and a constant reminder that chemistry can’t be quantified or tallied in abstract characteristics. And no matter how much you might want someone to be the right person for you — because they do have all of the things on your checklist — the universe has a way of telling you what you actually need. Tell us: Have you ever dated someone who met all your “on paper” qualifications but still wasn’t right for you?