Ask The Astrosexologist: Can I Win Back My Aries Ex Or Should I Move On?

My Aries ex and I were good friends for about seven months, and then began our romantic relationship in January. The relationship was all that I could ask for and more (perfect!), until a few months ago. Now the once daily calls and texts are every three days and seeing each other every day/every other day became every 4-5 days or when it was convenient for him. I confronted him about it several times and the responses were, “I’m sorry,” and excuses. He’d change for a few days to a week and things would be great. When he was with me, things would be PERFECT. When we were around other people, things would be PERFECT. When he wasn’t around me though, I hardly crossed his mind (considering his lack of communication).

I am a Gemini, always spontaneous and excited to make him happy. I never nagged, gave him his independence (since I love mine). I love to cook for him, clean for him, and think about seeing him, etc. I tried my best to be perfect for him and tried my best to keep him tied to me, especially towards the end of the relationship — but all was hopeless. So, a week ago, we decided to call it quits. I initiated it, but he seemed more than willing to end it. I explained my issues and his issue was he “lost motivation” to see me and things “weren’t the same as they used to be.” He hasn’t tried talking to me since, nor have I tried talking to him. Clearly he is still very near and dear to my heart, otherwise I wouldn’t be asking you this: Is there any hope to winning my Aries back, or is it hopeless? All I want is my relationship back to the way it was before. – Hopelessly Hopeful

As a Gemini, the flip-flopper sign, it’s not a shock you ended it and then wanted it back. However, remember you ended it and you made the reason loud and clear. If he wanted to change things, as that is the only way this relationship can last, he would have made a move — but he didn’t. If there were ever a shot again for this, he’d have to be the one to come back and acknowledge what he did to make it go sour. He has to feel sorry for how he dealt with the relationship and be willing to talk it out with you to make it better. Otherwise, nothing will change.

Since he took it like a man and left, you are going to have to face the facts that this could be hopeless. Sure, you can push/pull this relationship some more, but why? You will never get what you truly want, and that is someone who is more attentive to your needs. If in time he misses you and comes back, then you can open up the discussion about what you both want and how to work it out. However, as an Aries, the ego-bruising from being dumped isn’t going to make him crawl back anytime soon and if you can’t be with someone who appreciates your best, then why bother anyway?

If you are committed to getting him back though, know that Aries likes a challenge and likes to fight. This means if he can see he lost a good thing, as in you moving ahead with your life without him, this could make him look back. For example, if you get with a new man who is hotter and smarter, then chances are he’ll get jealous. However, working the mind-game angle is never a good move, as it rarely ends nicely.

The good news is that if you can come to terms with this situation and put it in your past, you have a good amount of time to heal before fab astrological aspects for love arrive. In late October, Mars, the planet of passion and sex, goes into your house of commitment, bringing good influences to get you some new love. So, for now, make up your mind on which direction you want to go: 1) think about what you want and what makes you feel good, without having to use underhanded tricks, and see where that takes you, or 2) hold onto a relationship that wasn’t working for you or making you feel good. The choice is up to you.

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