Dear Wendy Updates: “Friendly Fire” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Friendly Fire,” the woman whose boyfriend’s friend was acting like a jerk when he found out Friendly Fire had been inviting another couple to her summer cabin but not him and his girlfriend. Has she decided not to hang out with that guy anymore? Did she apologize to him? Find out after the jump.

Thanks for the advice; your advice and those of the commentators have been helpful to read. My letter certainly sparked a lot of controversy!

A quick update: My boyfriend saw how ridiculous his friend was being and stood up for himself (and subsequently, me!). When my boyfriend refused to answer his friend’s nasty text messages or respond on Facebook to nasty comments (he essentially ignored his friend), Larry eventually came around and apologized to my boyfriend for being out of line. I respect that his friend apologized, but that doesn’t mean that I automatically want to be best friends with the guy!

I explained that to my boyfriend and he respects my opinion. I fall somewhere in the middle of your advice and some of the advice in the comments. I’m not going to go out of my way to hang out with the offending friend, but I certainly will be friendly/cordial to the friend in social situations that call for a group to be together – parties, weddings, etc. Though, out of respect for my boyfriend, I won’t bow out of group “dates” that involve all three couples, because I know my boyfriend enjoys them. Thankfully, they only happen every few months or so and I can tolerate someone who I think is annoying for one night every once and a while.

I think in the end, I learned a lesson about inviting people to my cabin. I think I’ll stick to inviting my friends only or go just with my boyfriend! :)

Thanks again and thanks to all of the commenters.

Thanks for the update!

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