Dear Wendy Updates: “Wanting More” And “Homeward Bound” Respond

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear short updates from two people: “Wanting More,” a young woman from a recent “Shortcuts” column who wanted to know how to ask her FWB whether he wanted a real relationship without sounding needy, and “Homeward Bound,” who wondered if she should stay out east, where she was finishing grad school, to be with the man she loved, or move back west, where she had friends, family, better career options and a home she loved. Find out what both these ladies decided to do and whether they’re still with their guys, after the jump.From “Wanting More“:

I expressed to him I wanted a formal relationship early on (within the first month) so when he said he didn’t jump into things like that without thinking it through for a while, I decided to not put pressure on it. However, after about a year I no longer wanted to wait and see if we would eventually get there and that’s when I pressed him. I let him know exactly what I wanted and because he couldn’t give me a straight response as to what he wanted I walked away. Thanks for the advice.

Good for you!

From “Homeward Bound“:

I decided to go home, and he decided to follow me after a year. We got engaged. I’m home now, with family and friends and continuing to support the child I’d fostered in the past as he faces challenges. Two dear friends are also facing serious life challenges, and I’m grateful to be there for the people I love, working hard on the job search end. My boyfriend broke off the engagement because he said he couldn’t give me the family life I valued; his career means too much to him. Surrounded by people I love, I’m so glad I didn’t choose to give up everything for a man who is really married to his career.

Sorry things didn’t work out for you, but I’m glad you’re surrounded by the people you cherish.

If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at {encode=”[email protected]” title=”[email protected]”} with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.

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