Dear Wendy Updates: “ED Doesn’t Spell End” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear two quick updates from “ED Doesn’t Spell End,” whose new boyfriend was experiencing some erectile dysfunction and, as a result, pulling away from her, and “Against Premarital Sex,” who wondered when she should tell the new guy she was dating that she didn’t believe in sex or living together before marriage. Find out how these ladies are doing, after the jump.

“Pretty much as soon as I wrote the letter to you, things started improving drastically. Once we talked about the anxiety that he associated with sex and I reassured him about those, everything got back to working order. He saw a doctor and everything is physically fine, so all good there. He remained weird and distant for a couple of weeks after that, so I let him sort through things in his head and now we’re good again. I’d like to say thanks to you and the commenters for being so supportive. I was freaking out a bit and you guys gave me exactly the reassurance that I needed to hear and which I couldn’t necessarily get from him. I asked another forum for advice and got the charming response back, “When he doesn’t get hard, he’s thinking of the other girl he wants to bang instead of you.” So, thanks a bunch, guys, for being so lovely!” — ED Doesn’t Spell End

Glad to hear things are looking up! (Uh, no pun intended!)

“Thanks for the advice. I decided to keep quiet. A few days after your column ran he ended up telling me he was sexually conservative, so it turns out we both had the same values. I knew the talk about this would eventually happen, and I was glad I didn’t have to bring it up. Thanks again!” — Against Premarital Sex

Thanks for the update!

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