Dear Wendy Updates: “Newly Single” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Newly Single,” a bisexual woman who wrote to me a year ago when her engagement ended. She said that before her breakup, she questioned whether she could really be happy with only a man in her future. “Thankfully, I’m not faced with that dilemma any longer, but now I’m faced with a new one,” she wrote. “I’m fairly young (25), and I’ve never really dated anyone besides my ex, regardless of sex. […] I think that I would feel uncomfortable discussing my dating history with anyone — even if I was dating a guy — but now I’m faced with the fear that I’ll be judged for not having enough experience with girls.” So, how is she doing a year later? Is she dating women now? Still sticking with men? Find out after the jump.

Your advice was perfect for me because you encouraged me to give other people a chance. I dated this year; I’d never really done that before. I spent a lot of time thinking about what I’m looking for in a partner. I didn’t hide my past and, yes, some people cared but it was important to me that I be allowed to be myself. I was even finally honest with myself about my sexuality. Dating is difficult but I learned how to break things off with someone when it wasn’t right. I learned a lot of things that were not right for me.

A few months ago I met a girl off a dating site, now she is my girlfriend of four months. She’s beautiful, smart, so sweet and I love her like I didn’t know I could. As far as my dating past, turns out with the right person it’s a non-issue… She even enjoys that she gets to be so many firsts for me. I don’t trust easily so for me it’s very good to be reminded that without trust you can’t build anything real. Thanks!

Glad to hear things are going so well for you. Thank God your ex-fiancé broke up with you, huh?! Best of luck to you and your girlfriend!

If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at {encode=”[email protected]” title=”[email protected]”} with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.

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