Dear Wendy Updates: “Possible Pushover” Responds

Hey, are you someone I’ve given advice to in the past? Do you have an update on your situation you’re willing to share? Email me at {encode=”[email protected]” title=”[email protected]”} with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now. Today we discuss Possible Pushover, whose ex-boyfriend wanted to keep the truck that they shared. He paid 1/3 of the price, but didn’t have any intention of paying her for the rest. Her new boyfriend said she shouldn’t let him just have the truck, but more than getting money she deserved, she wanted to put the whole mess behind her and thought putting up a fight would only prolong the ordeal. So, did she give her ex the truck? Did she make him pay for it? Or, did she hang on to it for herself? Find out after the jump.

I really appreciate the guidance from you and feedback from all the commenters. Although my ex wanted more time [to pay me what I asked for the truck] and gave me the pity story and whatever excuse was possible to get more time, I told him he could pay me for the truck now or he could take the other car (worth what he put into the truck). I did not want this to go on any longer but I was anxious about confronting him and making the ultimatum. Though I regret involving the new guy in something I should have dealt with on my own, it happened and I learned a bit from it. I did feel caught up in the middle but it forced me to really question what I wanted out of it. Well, I could foresee it bothering me down the road if I just gave him the truck and figured it was fair that the ex should pay me for it. Anyway, surprise surprise, he came up with the funds immediately and bought the truck from me. He’s out of my life, and all is well. Thanks!

Glad to hear it worked out and you feel good about not letting the ex take advantage of you!

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